Can a man love his woman and still cheat on her?
I won’t pride myself in raising controversial topics, but controversial questions must be answered.
The above question has been thought about, and asked out loud since time immemorial.
It’s only right for me to give my opinion of it.
Of course, I sampled the opinions of other people and today, I’ll be putting them together with mine for your consumption.
Do you want to know what I think about this question, and my answer for it?
Stay with me to the end of this piece to get it.
Can A Man Love His Woman And Still Cheat On Her?
Like I mentioned earlier, I sought the opinions of other people and I’m going to share the different views here.
Some people think that it’s possible for a man to love his woman and still cheat on her.
To them, love and sex are different things, and can be kept away from each other.
They believe that sexual urge is instinctive and stronger in some persons, causing them to cheat without giving much thought to the act itself.
Someone agreed to the possibility of a man loving his woman and still cheating on her with the reason that love means different things to different people.
It also boils down to being able to separate love from sex, which people in this school of thought refer to as ‘mere’.
When I asked the question, ‘Can a man love his woman and still cheat on her?’, another person opined that cheating happens as a result of the personal struggles of some men.
And on that note, we’ll move to the next point in the topic.
Reasons Why A Man Will Cheat On His Woman Despite Loving Her
Based on the opinion that cheating happens as a result of the personal struggles of some men, I decided to dig deeper and try to see reasons with the argument.
Outlined below are some reasons given by some people that’ll make a man cheat on his woman despite loving her.
1. Impulsive decision
I might not be in support of what you’re about to read next, but it still has to be said regardless.
I’m of the opinion that cheating is always premeditated — it doesn’t just happen in a flash.
There’ll be a build up of calls, chats, texts, dates, making plans, etc.
These actions in themselves are emotional cheating, but that’s not the focus of this discourse.
In my opinion, it’s a build up of these actions that leads to the physical cheating.
However, my personal survey says otherwise.
According to some people, there’s something like impulsive cheating.
It’s more like a window of opportunity that presents itself and someone makes use of it.
One-night stand is a good example of impulsive cheating.
Instead of being a premeditated action, such cheating happens in the heat of the moment.
But I’m still of the opinion that a disciplined man won’t fall prey to any form of cheating, or any other action that’ll intentionally hurt the feelings of his partner.
2. Varying definitions of love
Love means different things to different people.
For some people, love and sex are intertwined and for some others, they are separate entities that can exist apart from each other.
People with the latter opinion might not see cheating as a form of betrayal.
They might feel that the love they have for their partner is all that matter in the relationship.
3. Emotional disconnection
The presence of emotional connection and intimacy between couples is very important.
It’s a factor that make individuals feel seen, heard, loved, and valued in their relationships.
It makes them feel important and fulfilled both as independent individuals, and as parts of a whole in the relationship.
When there’s an emotional disconnection, a gap begins to grow between a couple and within their hearts.
It won’t take long for one or both parties to start feeling unimportant, unseen, unfulfilled, and unvalued.
Talking alone doesn’t fix an emotional disconnection; action does.
And if nothing is done in a timely fashion to bridge the gap, a man might seek validation and fulfilment in the arms of another woman.
4. Fear of commitment
One of the things that’ll make a man cheat on his woman despite loving her is the fear of commitment.
A person who has issues with being or staying committed to their partner will likely cheat on them.
And it doesn’t matter if they love and care about their partner.
It’s a personal struggle that they have to deal with before getting into a relationship to avoid hurting their potential partners.
5. Thrill of the chase
There are men who lose interest in a relationship once it becomes official.
Such a man is dedicated and committed to wooing his love interest, and acts all love-struck and mushy around her.
He turns off like a switch the moment she becomes interested in him, and agrees to date him.
Yes, such men exist.
The only thing that gives them joy and satisfaction is having to pursue a lady.
That kind of person won’t stop wooing other ladies even when he’s actively in a relationship with another woman.
He’s doing it simply for the fun of it, although it’s at the detriment of his current relationship.
So, there you have them — the various reasons why a man will cheat on his wife despite loving her.
My Thoughts
Like I said at the beginning, I don’t think that a man will love his woman and still cheat on her.
Love is constantly good to its beneficiaries, regardless of whatever else is happening in the background.
When a man cheats, he’s not being good to his partner because he’s definitely hurting her.
I feel like anyone who thinks that they can cheat on their partner while still claiming to love them is only kidding.
To be honest, the first time I saw the question, ‘Can a man love his woman and still cheat on her?’, the entirety of my being screamed ‘NO’ even before I could process the question completely.
That’s how much I believe in not hurting your partner through cheating and every other intentional way in a relationship.
Getting cheated on is one of the deepest levels of betrayal anyone can experience.
If you truly love someone, you’ll factor in their opinions and feelings when making decisions or taking actions.
In addition, cheating is a choice.
Even in one-night stands, there’ll always be an opportunity to stop, back off, and walk away.
When anyone cheats, it’s an intentional decision on their part.
By making such a decision, they chose to either neglect the feelings of their partner, or to hurt them anyway.
I’ll round it up by saying that cheating is not an act of love.
The two words cannot coexist.
If you truly love your partner, you have no business cheating on them.
