Today, we’ll be discussing the signs he doesn’t have feelings for you.
It’s a given that not everyone who you like will like you back.
It might become a bitter pill to swallow when feelings are involved — you have feelings for someone who you’re not sure feels the same way towards you.
But, how will you know for sure that this person isn’t on the same page with you?
I’ll approach this topic from the lens of a lady and find out how to know that a guy doesn’t have feelings for you.
There’ll always be both subtle and obvious signs, but sometimes, emotions can cloud our sense of judgement.
This article aims to serve as a clarity session to every lady who is itching to know if a certain man has feelings for her.
I promise that you’ll get maximum value for your time if you read to the end.
8 Signs He Doesn’t Have Feelings For You
1. He tells you clearly
In my opinion (and generally too), the most obvious of the signs he doesn’t have feelings for you is that he tells you so.
I mean, you should start taking people seriously when they say some things.
Perhaps, you told this guy how you feel towards him.
He proceeds to tell you that he doesn’t have feelings for you.
But you think that he’s not serious and will come around.
As how?
He’s an adult who knows exactly what he wants.
He has told you what he doesn’t want, and you still don’t want to believe him.
At this point, you’re responsible for whatever happens to you and your feelings on your quest to winning his love and affection.
2. He treats you the same way he treats his friends
It’s possible and not out of place for a lady to develop feelings for her male friend.
It can be that she got close to him and became drawn to his personality.
However, it’s not looking like he feels the same way for her.
In fact, he sees her as one of his friends.
He doesn’t give her any special treatment and relates with her the same way he relates with his other friends.
That guy doesn’t have romantic feelings for her.
If he does, there must be a difference in the attention he gives to her, and the way he speaks to her.
For instance, he’ll make exceptions for her.
His voice and eyes will soften when he’s talking to her.
He’ll want to go extra miles to please her.
It might not be so noticeable, but anyone who is observant can point out the difference.
3. He’s not interested in talking to you
I think it’s as plain as it can be.
If a man is not interested in talking to you, he probably doesn’t have feelings for you.
It’s pretty easy.
He has so many opportunities to talk to you or maintain a conversation with you, but he doesn’t act on it.
Perhaps, you struck up a conversation, but he gives you one-word replies and doesn’t seem interested in making more from the conversation.
Or he might excuse himself while you’re still talking and walk away.
If these things happen repeatedly, you don’t need a soothsayer to interpret it for you.
It’s one of the signs he doesn’t have feelings for you.
4. He’s never around you
One of the biggest signs he doesn’t have feelings for you is that he’s never around you.
Don’t get me wrong.
A man who likes you as just a friend will come around you from time to time because he loves your company.
But he’ll not want to be around you always.
On the other hand, a man who likes you in a romantic way will want to always be around you.
Of course, that’ll be whenever you’re both in the same space.
He’ll constantly scan the room for where you are with his eyes.
Then, he’ll find a way to get close to you there.
He does all that because you fascinate him, and he’s interested in you romantically.
So, any chance he gets, he wants to get to know you better.
However, when a man doesn’t see you at all (either romantically or as a friend), he’ll see no reason to be around you.
Well, except you’re work colleagues, or you both have something to work together on.
He’ll see no need to hang around or engage you because there’s no interest or common ground.
Get the difference.
So, if it looks like he doesn’t want to be around you, then, it might be that he sees no need for it.
That man doesn’t have feelings for you.
5. His body language suggests it
There are ways to know if someone is interested in, or has feelings for you from their body language.
A man who is interested in you will smile, nod his head, listen attentively, and engage actively with you while talking to you.
He’ll lean in towards you, and maintain eye contact as much as possible.
However, a man who doesn’t have feelings for you will do the exact opposite.
He’ll look everywhere but at you while you’re talking to him.
If you’re observant, he might show signs of discomfort by merely talking to you, especially if you’re just making small talks.
It’ll look like he’s being held against his will because his general behavior and body language will scream so.
6. He doesn’t flirt with only you
Another angle is that he might be one of those guys who flirt with random ladies for the fun of it.
Whenever he’s bored, he engages a random lady, makes her laugh and blush, and feels good about himself.
And that’s all there is to him.
There are no feelings attached.
I can’t say if it’s a good or bad trait, as that’s not what we’re focusing on.
But if he’s that kind of guy, it’s best to know that he doesn’t have feelings for you because he flirted with you just once.
He’s probably like that with other ladies.
So, come off it.
7. He’s comfortable with talking about other women with you
When a man feels comfortable with talking about women who he likes or admires with you, he probably doesn’t have feelings for you.
There are exceptions to this scenario though.
Some men constantly talk about their interest in other women with women they admire.
It might sound weird, but it happens.
It’s reverse psychology at work.
The idea is to talk about other women and feign interest in them.
Then, he’ll watch the woman he’s speaking with closely to detect any signs of envy and jealousy in her.
It’s his own way of knowing if she’s interested in him.
But that’s just an exception to the rule.
The general rule is that a man who has feelings for a woman doesn’t talk about his admiration for other women with her.
It doesn’t make sense at all because he knows that he might be hurting her feelings, if she feels attracted to him.
Even if she isn’t attracted to him, she’ll likely not take him seriously when he professes his love for her.
And that’s because he’s always talking about other women whenever he’s with her.
The bottom line is that a man who is comfortable with discussing his crush on other women with you doesn’t have romantic feelings for you.
8. He’s generally friendly with everyone
In line with point 2 above, one of the signs he doesn’t have feelings for you is that he’s generally friendly with everyone, as he is with you.
He might not be friends or even acquaintances with the lady.
But he is someone who is nice to everyone generally.
The fact that he is nice towards her doesn’t mean that he’s interested in or has feelings for her.
It’s just how he naturally treats other people.
If you’re in these shoes, it’ll be helpful if you watched how he interacts with other people before drawing your conclusions.
He might just be an easy-going person who believes in treating everyone with courtesy and respect.
Don’t interpret it to mean that he has eyes for you because that’s probably not the case.
