We’ll be discussing the worst mistakes men make in relationships today, and I’ll tell you why.
Some days ago, I posted the worst mistakes women make in relationships, and I’m still getting a lot of feedbacks from it.
I see it as an encouragement and morale boost to equally talk about the male version of the topic.
Without further ado, let’s get down to the topic of discourse.
6 Worst Mistakes Men Make In Relationships
1. Trying to get a woman to like him
It’s wrong for a man to try to get a woman to like him.
There are things that cannot be forced, and likeness is one of them.
It’s the same for both genders.
If the likeness isn’t there, it isn’t there.
However, some men make the mistake of thinking that they can convince a woman to like them.
This usually happens when it’s clear that a woman is not interested in them.
A man with this mindset thinks that once he gets into a relationship with the woman and shows her what he has to offer, she’ll change her mind and begin to like him.
Dear man, I won’t advise you to make that move.
It’s screaming desperate and needy, and is not giving at all.
Learn to handle rejection in a noble way.
Through the journey of life, rejections will come alongside acceptances.
Focus on the positives and use them to thrive.
There are women out there who are interested in you.
You just don’t see them because you’ve been focused on a woman who doesn’t like you.
Now is the time to redirect your focus.
Tune down the noise and find a woman who resonates with you.
One thing you should never forget is that there’s a woman for every man, and a man for every woman.
2. Not having a mind of his own
One misleading mindset some men have is that bending to the every whims and caprices of the women in their lives will make such women love them more.
They think that doing things for a woman whenever and however she wants it will endear her to them.
But that’s not the case.
When a man doesn’t have a mind of his own in a relationship, it doesn’t make his woman happy.
Men are natural leaders and as such, are expected to have their unique power and be able to hold their own.
No woman wants to be with a man who is a walkover.
Any man who is an ‘oh yes member’ and appears to live for the sole purpose of pleasing his woman is a turn-off to most women.
This single attitude will make her lose respect for him very quickly.
The attraction and admiration she has for him will turn to disgust pretty soon.
I’ll tell you for free that women like to be with men who have a mind of their own.
They want their men to call the shots while also taking care of them by the side.
Honestly, men who are able to hold their own, and know the right thing to do at the right time are a balm to the soul.
3. Being a ‘nice’ guy
I know that some men might be confused because they’ve probably heard one too many women admitting to wanting nice guys.
But in the real sense, these women don’t go for the ‘nice guys’.
They date men who are self-aware, say what’s on their minds, put themselves first, and does the things they feel is right for them without needing anyone else’s approval.
Some people have a term for this type of men – ‘jerks’.
But are they really jerks?
I doubt it.
Being a ‘jerk’ makes women admire and respect a man.
And respect and admiration are some of the key qualities a man needs to attract and keep a woman’s attention trained on him.
Being a nice guy doesn’t evoke feelings of attraction in a woman.
It might make her feel some affection, but affection is not as important as attraction in a relationship.
4. Expressing his feelings too quickly
Another mistake some men make in relationships is that they talk about their feelings too quickly.
A man like this thinks that telling a woman how he feels will make her start loving him in return.
However, things don’t work that way.
The world doesn’t revolve around anyone, and certainly not you.
Most women are only concerned about how they feel about you.
That’s their precedent for being attracted to you.
It’ll help if you remained a bit mysterious while trying to figure each other out in the relationship.
The suspense has a way of heightening her curiosity, attraction, and interest in you.
Revealing how you feel too quickly can be likened to telling her the end of a good movie at the beginning of the movie.
She’ll likely lose interest in seeing the movie to the end.
It’s part of the worst mistakes men make in relationships.
Take things one step at a time with her.
See if she’s interested in you just like you are in her.
Focus on going on dates and getting to know each other better.
Then, let things take their natural course.
5. Thinking that good looks and money is enough to attract and keep women
One of the worst mistakes men make in relationships is thinking that good looks and money is enough to attract and keep a woman.
I’m not trying to say that money and good looks are not important in a relationship.
In fact, looks are part of the things that attract a woman.
And if a man is going to be serious with her, he needs money.
However, these two are not enough for a man to keep a woman.
He needs to have both good personality and behavior.
Now, here is the mistake some men make.
They think that being handsome and showing off wealth will make them get and keep any woman of their choice.
How wrong they are!
The truth is that some women will be drawn to such a man, but the relationship will be short-lived, especially if he lacks good behavior and great personality.
No one wants to date a douche-bag for a long time.
Having a good personality and behaving well will go a long way to help a man attract and keep a woman.
That’s why you see some people wonder why a man can get and remain with a gorgeous woman for a long time.
6. Stopping the chase
Having gone through it a few times, I’ll tell you this for a fact.
There are men who stop chasing their women after they’ve gotten them.
Men usually put in a lot of effort during the courtship stage of a relationship.
They’re effortlessly funny, constantly calling and texting, and planning dates at that stage.
All of it comes to a screeching halt once the woman agrees to date them.
It’s wrong to stop the courting process just because you’re already in a relationship with her.
It doesn’t mean that you’ll have to put in the work alone or forever.
Relationship is a two-way street.
I believe that you give the energy you want to receive.
If your woman sees that you’re still flirting with her, planning dates, pulling pleasant surprises on her, and creating beautiful memories with her, she’ll sit up and want to meet you in the middle.
Bear in mind that your relationship will take a downward spiral the moment you both stop being intentional and putting in efforts to make it fun.
Don’t stop doing those things that attracted her and made her say yes to you.
