There are avoidable mistakes women make in relationships.
I’ve been dishing out advice to people in relationships and marriages for a while now, and I’ve discovered something peculiar.
Most of the relationship problems people face arise from the fact that men and women are wired differently, and so, they see things differently.
The essence of this post is not to blame women for every relationship breakup.
Far from it!
Rather, it is aimed at pointing out the ways women contribute to relationship problems and breakups.
Without further ado, let’s get right to discussing the worst mistakes women make in relationships.
6 Worst Mistakes Women Make In Relationships
1. Not accepting their men the way they are, or trying to change them
First of all, no one can change anyone.
Take that to the bank.
Someone will only decide to change if they see the need to.
I know that women are natural nurturers and caretakers.
But it’s wrong to want to change someone into who they’re not for any reason.
It’s a huge turn off for men.
Picture this scenario:
A woman meets a man who catches her fancy and they get into a relationship.
Not too long after, she starts having a problem with who the man is and tries to change him into who he’s not.
It might start with not liking his general appearance, raising an eyebrow at his table manners, or frowning at his grooming or dress sense.
From years of hearing this type of stories, I can tell you that it never ends well for both parties.
I mean, she saw the man and liked him enough to get into a relationship with him.
Or did she agree to date him because she sees him as a project that she can work on?
Not only is it insulting and demeaning, but it’s also an emasculating behaviour.
Everyone wants to be seen, heard, valued, and appreciated for their person.
It’s not fair to go around trying to change people for no reason.
Let’s turn the table around.
Will any woman want a man to come into her life and try to change her or not accept her for who she is?
There goes the answer!
It remains one of the worst mistakes women make in relationships.
2. Creating drama instead of memories
In fact, most of them want to make problems go away so that they can be at peace for a greater part of their time.
It can be frustrating to be working towards living in peace and your partner is brewing drama to send your way.
They see it as wasted effort and it tires them out easily.
That’s why they devote time to solving problems.
But if a man notices that his woman enjoys having troubles instead of peace, he might start planning his exit from the relationship.
She might be doing it to get his attention, but there are better ways to get a man’s attention.
3. Not knowing their worth
A woman who doesn’t know her worth is more or less naked in the eyes of the world, and rightfully so too.
I know of a lady who seems to always attract the wrong guys.
She’s always chasing after and dating the bad boys who treated her poorly.
At first, I thought that she has a crush on, or is obsessed with those type of guys.
But it didn’t take long for me to notice a trend.
She’s simply attracted to any guy whose entire personality screams ‘unavailable’.
The day I had a conversation with her about her choice of men, I was able to pinpoint some things.
She wants some specific things but is clearly going for totally different things in her relationships.
That’s because she’s afraid to ask or demand for what she wants.
She prefers to settle rather than move on with her life, with the hope that such a man will turn around some day and start treating her right.
I simply told her that she doesn’t know her worth and went further to narrow it down for her.
It appears that she has the fears of not being capable to be loved and not being enough.
I had to really speak to her and hopefully, liberated her from the shackles of fear.
Now, I’m putting it out here for every other woman who doesn’t know her worth and is settling for less than she deserves.
No man will respect a woman who gives him the permission to treat her poorly.
Woman up and know that you’re invaluable.
Start acting like it, and watch the trajectory of your relationships change positively.
4. Not sharing their feminine gifts
A man’s masculine gifts are to provide for and protect his loved ones.
In the same vein, a woman’s feminine gift is to nurture and take care of her loved ones.
One of the worst mistakes women make in relationships is failing to take care of and nurture her man.
She might only be interested in taking but never giving.
However, it’s a wrong approach to relationships.
An ideal relationship is one in which both parties are typically committed to giving to each other.
While the man provides for and protects, the woman nurtures and cares.
When any party is falling short of expectations, there’ll be problems.
5. Feeling entitled
One of the worst mistakes women make in relationships is feeling entitled to the things their partners do for them.
Just as there are women who do not know their worth, there are also women who are self-centered.
They feel entitled and are not appreciative of whatever the men in their lives do for them.
It shouldn’t come to you as a surprise that there are some women who get into relationships solely because of the gifts and other benefits they get from the man.
It’ll also not be your first time of hearing of women who accept expensive gifts, money, and pick the most expensive things on the menu when they go out with a man.
Then, such women go mute, become uninterested or busy when the man wants to take them on subsequent dates and know them better.
This crop of women feel that men owe them for the mere fact that they came into the world as women.
Their approach to any guy who makes himself available to them is cut-throat.
They get as much as they can from him and move on to their next prey.
Gold-digging might not be a big deal to you but wait till you’re at the receiving end of such behaviour.
6. Not understanding the men in their lives
In my opinion, the success or failure of a relationship depends largely on how well the couple understand each other.
While women are more complex, men are simpler in nature and are easier to understand.
When a woman understands her man to a great extent, she’ll likely play by the rules and do things that suit him.
The same goes for a man who understands his woman so well.
On the other hand, a woman who doesn’t understand her husband will end up bumping into him and stepping on his toes one too many times.
He might want ‘A’, and she’ll be engrossed in doing ‘B’.
They’ll always seem to be going in the opposite, parallel directions.
Such a relationship is sadly headed for the rocks.
Well, except they both consciously decide to put heads together and understand each other better.
